Choice, Chance, Change

clock-1866479_1280Looking back at where I have been, and the people that I have shared my journey with, I realise that change is inevitable. And I hate admitting this because I have always hated change and the obstacles it brings with it. I loathed how change threatened my comfort zone and admitting it meant that I was no longer in control. This caused my brain to malfunction and freak out for a while.


I often wondered if it was possible to cope with the idea of not always being in control. But guess what? I didn’t die a melodramatic death or disappear into thin air. In fact, on the contrary, accepting change has given me the opportunity to do more than just exist. It gave me the opportunity to live.


With the big changes that I have made, in regards to my career and what I want to do with my life, I can honestly say that change is difficult and messy. But despite this, I am finally at a point in my life, where I can say that I am living my life, and I am happy about where I am going. Learning more about myself and what makes me happy has influenced my way of thinking.


Being on this journey, while living in a broken world where everyone is searching for a place to belong, has taught me that modern society has the wrong outlook on the concept of change. This fear of change is what held me back. Even though I knew that I couldn’t change the world, I wanted to live in such a manner where I believed I can have an influence. But how did I expect to make a difference if I was afraid of change?


George Bernard Shaw hit the nail on the head when he said: “Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds, cannot change anything”. People love blaming each other for changing and not being the person who they once were. The reality is that everyone changes at some point in their lives.


Every one of us has gone or will go through something that will change them in a way, that will make it almost impossible to go back to being the person they used to be. It is impossible to avoid change. Why not embrace it? Take a moment and think about it. Ask yourself; is it really that bad? I want to challenge you with the idea that change is actually an opportunity to grow.


The amazing thing is; you also have a choice to be happy and to change something that makes you unhappy. We tend to sit back too easily and complain about different things, but you can’t change something that you refuse to confront. If you don’t like something, change it, or find a hobby that can help you deal with the stress. You have the choice to embrace the change, and a chance to be better than you were the previous day.

6 Comments Add yours

  1. Jay Colby says:

    Great post


    1. Ilka Steyn says:

      Thanks, Jay Colby 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

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