My View on Life before Turning 30

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It’s my birthday tomorrow! Can I get a whoop-whoop?! I’m turning 29, which means – yes, you guessed it – I’ll be turning 30 next year. And to be honest, I have mixed feelings about it. It sounds old and young at the same time; confusing my identity.


On the one hand, I feel like I’m entering some of the best years of my life. I’m proud about what the past two years have taught me and I can only imagine it getting better. But on the other hand, I may have a Joey-meltdown.


Taking this time to reflect on my achievements and failures so far, reminds me of what’s really important in life. So whatever my mental state is in a year’s time, I will always believe in the following five life lessons.



To cultivate your passion is to live your life. And if you’re waking up to a job you truly hate, you’re only existing.


Your job is not your only mission in life. Many people get so caught up in their job, that the rest of their lives start to suffer. And there is nothing wrong with working hard! It just shouldn’t get in the way of the more important things in life: health, relationships, and passion.


Find something that aligns with your principles and desires, and cultivate it to let it grow. Whether it shapes into a career or one kick-ass hobby, you’ve given yourself the opportunity to grow into the best version of yourself.



One of my biggest fears is to stop growing; to stop growing in my career, relationship, and who I’m meant to be. So how do I achieve this? Through change. And change is difficult!


Change means uncertainty and uncertainty means discomfort. And no one wants to live in discomfort. But at the end of the day, if you want a different outcome in your life, change needs to happen.


We have to teach ourselves to embrace the process of change. Only then do we get to reap the rewards of change and grow; to become someone better than we were yesterday.



We tend to forget what success really means. Success is more than the big house or a fancy car. It’s about your perspective on life, who you are, and how far you’ve come.

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No matter how rich or talented you believe you are, how you treat people tells the world who you really are. Having integrity is everything. And when you live your life according to your values instead of your bank account, it guides you toward success.



I’ve never believed in choosing your battles more than I do today. The last two years of consciously deciding what battles I consider as important has taught me how to invest my time and energy wisely.


The moment when you look at your time and energy as sources that should never run empty, you take care of yourself. Taking care of yourself means that you also take care of your career, friends, and family.



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I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. If I could wish only one thing for the world, it would be the ability to show tolerance towards each other.


Being able to accept each other despite our differences is what true love is all about. Just because someone is different from you, doesn’t mean they’re wrong. And at the end of the day, we’re all a part of this thing we call the human condition. So why not just be kind to one another?

2 Comments Add yours

  1. Whoop whoop! I wish you an amazing birthday. Enjoy


    1. Ilka Steyn says:

      Thanks, Melissa!


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