Building your dream isn’t easy. Like most people I have days where I doubt myself and wonder if I’m on the right path.
The thing about life is we can plan as much as we want to, but that doesn’t mean it’s going to go according to that plan. It sucks, I know. But we’re often too practical in imagining how good things could possibly get.
I’ve come to realise that your life path is like driving at night. Your headlights don’t show the whole road ahead of you, but only a few kilometres in front of you. And that’s all you need! You can do the one thing that is in front of you and as you move on, the next step will be clear.
So how do you know if you’re on the right path? And I can’t give you definite answers, but here are some ways I try to listen to myself; following my intuition.
YOU’RE CONSTANTLY SECOND-GUESSING YOURSELF
Instead of choosing the easy and comfortable route, you followed your intuition. You chose the unpredictable and difficult-to-navigate route so that you can reach your goals. In other words, living a life worthwhile is more important to you than just existing.
The things we usually want the most in life are the things that we have to work the hardest and longest for. And it’s these struggles that make you second-guess yourself because you’ve accepted that no existence – which is worthwhile – is going to be easy.
YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF TO BE LUCKY
When you decide to follow your intuition and start building your dream, you experience a sense of gratitude.
Having the opportunity to do what you want to do is something that you can’t take for granted because you know there are many people who will never get such an opportunity due to their life circumstances. And if you know this already, you’re on the right path.
YOU THINK LESS ABOUT THE PAST AND MORE ABOUT THE FUTURE
You’ve reached a point in your life where you’re more fascinated by the future and what it holds for you. Even though you enjoy looking at old photos and to reminisce about your younger days, you know it’s more exciting to work towards something new; the reward is better than to retreat.
IT DOESN’T LOOK LIKE ANYBODY ELSE’S DREAM
If you look at a friend’s life choice and say, “This looks like fun, maybe I should do it too,” you’re not on the right path. When you wish to do the same thing as your friend – instead of developing your own dream – you’re only mimicking their desire and not fulfilling yours.
THERE’S A POSSIBILITY OF FAILURE
We often mistake a failure as a bad thing. Yes, it’s not fun to fail, but making mistakes are one of the best ways to learn and grow. Failures are often that extra nudge we needed and can push us in the right direction.
By choosing the route where you can’t fail; where you have a big safety net underneath you, you are limiting yourself. If you don’t venture far enough out of your comfort zone to do something, you’re throwing away any chance of success.
I think playing it safe is a form of failure. And it may be the worst form of failure because not only didn’t you succeed at your goal, but you also have the regret of not trying.
At the end of the day, there are no cookie-cutter answers to help you know if you’re on the right path. But if you listen to your intuition, you will figure out the next step – even if the road is dark beyond the headlights.