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A Few Things to Do During Lockdown

We’ve all wished for more time… Then lockdown happened. Suddenly, we can hear birds singing and it feels like the clock’s ticking is mocking us. So, I quickly turned to the internet to find an anecdote for my boredom.   Here’s what I’ve been doing to kill the time.   COLOUR IN DAVID GRIESSEL’S ART…

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A Letter To (Social Media) South Africa

Where do I begin? Do I give statistics? Do I tell you everything will be okay? Because I don’t really know.   What I can say is: my heart aches for our country; for the world. In two days’ time, our country will go into lockdown to try and stay strong against a virus that…

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What A Year

It feels like every time I write a post reflecting on what I’ve learned the past year, I love using the words: life had another plan. Maybe it will be my famous last words? My word for 2019 was ‘shine’ and to work on how I treat myself. And like I just hinted, my life…

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A shiny 2019

I’m not a fan of new year’s resolutions because I truly believe that change doesn’t have to happen on a yearly basis. Every day is an opportunity to change and try again. But for the last few years, choosing a word for the year has been a great learning school.   In 2017, I chose the word…

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Inspired to Inspire

Being a writer, I write to share my ideas and knowledge. I share advice on how to stay positive, or why choosing your battles is important. But this – of course – doesn’t mean I have life figured out. It means I’m figuring it out as I go on and then I share my journey…

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Moving Forward

“Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer.” – Denis Waitley   When confronted with problems, we tend to obsessively analyse the problem. Especially if you suffer from anxiety. You keep thinking of something that went wrong and you forget…

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Some Food for Thought

The key to living a focused life is direction. When you know what you want; a clear goal, you can steer all your energy in that direction. But when you don’t know what you want, you will mindlessly wander around. Don’t get me wrong, focusing your energy in one direction doesn’t mean you should work…

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A focused 2018

Last year taught me about the wonder of giving. I was reminded that if you want to change the world for the better, you have to change yourself first; to be the change. But what about the things I can’t change?   Being the controlling person that I am, it has always been difficult to…

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Reflecting on 2017

With a new year comes new goals. And what would we humans be without new year’s resolutions? It’s what gets us going in the beginning of a new year.   For me, 2017 was about giving. I didn’t know how I was going to give, as the green stuff was quite scarce. And I know…

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2018

  “I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re doing something.” – Neil Gaiman  

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The Beginning of Aunthood

I’ve been blessed with one of the best titles you can get. Yes, I’m an aunt! And even though I’ve only had this title for a short time, there are a few things that came along with being an aunt that caught me by surprise.   1. SEEING YOUR NEPHEW OR NIECE FOR THE FIRST…

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A Turning Point

There is power in giving, but sometimes we think that giving is limited to money. And I know I’ve been guilty of believing it in the past, which is why I thought I didn’t have anything to give. But I’m happy to say, I was wrong.   Giving isn’t about money. It’s about making the…

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Thought of the Day

Life is tough. So we need to believe in something bigger; believe in something better to keep us going. But because we fear failure, we sometimes choose the road of doing nothing.     The thing about failure is that it isn’t permanent. It’s a bruise and not a tattoo. Even when we didn’t achieve…

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The Cookie Cutter Mentality

First impressions can be misleading. But the problem isn’t that we judge a person by their first impression, the problem is that we stick to that judgement; leaving no room for change or improvement.   Society has convinced us that there is a certain way to look and act if you want to be labelled…

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The Power of Giving

We’ve all heard it before. There is joy in giving to others, but why? They say that the more you give, the more you will receive. But what is it about giving that makes us happy?   WHY WE GIVE When you ask people why they believe you should give, the most popular answers include:…

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Why I Write

A heavy heart hurts. And having a heavy heart can physically slow you down; convincing you that your world came to a standstill while the rest of the world moves on.   In the times when I’m weighed down by my heavy heart, I turn to writing because, sometimes, only paper will listen. Writing gives…

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10 Values I’m Living By

Our values are the foundation of our identity. They are shaped and continuously re-shaped through our culture, religion, friends, family, and the media. It serves as our moral compass; directs our decisions and actions.   Many people may confuse values with ethics or morals, but it isn’t the same. Your values are what’s important to…

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Vitamin Sea

I’ve always loved the beach. And like any kid, a beach holiday was nothing less than amazing. But two years ago, something changed: I lost my heart to the ocean.   Being someone who tends to overthink everything, I’m afraid of drowning in my own thoughts. My thoughts are my waves crashing over me and…

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Feeling Helpless

I hate the feeling when I really want to help, but there is nothing I can do. So today I have no tips or ideas to share, only my thoughts.   Like for most people, life can sometimes hand out a punch or two; making it difficult to get back up. And as difficult as…

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New Year; New Goals

I was never a big fan of new year resolutions. It always felt like I was setting myself up for disappointment by having a long list of (sometimes unrealistic) expectations. And before I knew it, life happened and the end of the year was staring back at me – with my incomplete list of things…

Wonder Woman (2017)

Just Keep Moving

I love cycling. I love how it gives me a sense of freedom; the wind blowing through my hair (or in my case, my helmet). It’s my drug of choice and therapy. I love the idea of challenging myself and then conquering that obstacle, but like any person, I sometimes doubt myself.   Recently, I…

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“Rude-ism”: Is It The New Trend?

Dealing with rude people is tricky and utterly exhausting. They suffer from a disease – as I like to call it – known as “assholity” and they struggle to see the damage their actions can cause. Rude people have convinced themselves that they’re allowed to say and do whatever they please, no matter what the…

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Doing The Right Thing

You would think with three qualifications behind my name, I would know what I’m doing. But alas, I suffer from what I like to call: qualified confusement.   After all the book-knowledge I have consumed and street-smarts I have gained, I am still just another human being trying to find my way in life, while…

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A Larger Opinion on Beauty

This morning – unlike many other mornings – I saw myself as beautiful. Yes, you heard me. I looked at my tall and curvy body with its many imperfections and saw myself as beautiful. I stood in front of the mirror and saw different parts of my body that I actually liked. This got me…

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See Happy; Be Happy

We all want to be happy. Happiness is what we strive for in our relationships, careers and dreams. It’s the driving force in the decision-making process of our lives. This is the reason why we are constantly searching for that key to happiness. And the more I convinced myself that when I get that or achieve this,…

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Choice, Chance, Change

Looking back at where I have been, and the people that I have shared my journey with, I realise that change is inevitable. And I hate admitting this because I have always hated change and the obstacles it brings with it. I loathed how change threatened my comfort zone and admitting it meant that I…

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Keep Life Simple

Living an uncomplicated life might be the way to finding your freedom and happiness. I’m saying this, because, for the last few years, I have been reminded constantly about this in different ways. Every time I decided to do something just for the money, I ended up disappointed with the result. Or, if only for…

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Believing in The Good

With everything that is happening in our world, it’s impossible to always stay positive. But looking back at horrible experiences I have had, it is possible to see the good in them too. In some cases, I had to look long and hard for them, but I did eventually find them. And let me tell…

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Put a Label on That

It seems to me that other people are more concerned about my future plans than I am. I knew when I quit my job, to pursue my passion of writing, that I was going to be asked all kinds of different questions, like; How do you make money? Where do you see yourself in five…

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Pedalling My Way to Freedom

In school, I was one of the biggest addicts of the arts. I enjoyed the stage more than anything. At one point, my mother made me choose between all my different activities because I was too busy. Athletics and netball were the first to go. I didn’t even hesitate, but don’t get me wrong. I…

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Freedom of Speech (in My Car)

Driving alone in my car is like going to Las Vegas: “What happens in my car, stays in the car”. And I consider myself a well-behaved lady because my parents taught me manners. I promise you that. But like every person, I have my weak moments. When I experience a mild, yet potent, version of…

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Being a Teacher, Made Me a Student

As a child, you dream. You dream bigger than big and you set yourself goals. It may not always be realistic, but that is not necessarily a bad thing. It teaches us to hope for the better and to aim for the stars. Now, some people will argue with me that it can also set…

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The Rule About Freedom

With many students protesting in violent ways, and social media status updates of people hating other races and cultures without shame, I believe the world has a misconception of what freedom is. I believe freedom only exists when we accept the differences between us and live with compassion. Freedom doesn’t allow you to say whatever…

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My Stick of Knowledge

Having peace amongst ourselves as people is not about agreeing on everything, but rather about respecting the differences there are between us. If you don’t like a person, it doesn’t mean you have to treat them with no respect. They still deserve to be treated with love. A wise man – my brother (and I…

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Standoff between Regret and Failure

Following your passion is not easy. You have to make sacrifices and take a leap of faith into the darkness. There are moments when I have a miniature firework show in my head, arguing with myself as to whether I made the right decision giving up a stable income or not. Then there are days…

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A Key to Be Free, Is to Be You

When you see someone for the first time, you make an assumption of who they are based on their appearance. It’s a normal reaction for us as human beings, because we are constantly searching for a place to belong. However, despite this, my biggest frustration is that people can convince themselves that their first impression…

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And So, She Decided to Start Living The Life She’d Imagined

There is something in all of us that strives for freedom. Everyone wants to be happy and they believe they need to be. Even I do, but what does freedom actually mean? The dictionary defines it as: “the state of not being imprisoned or enslaved”, which I believe refers to the physical or psychological. Back in…